You Are Toxic And I Am Done

I don’t care if I look like the bad person for going “low contact” with you. It’s worth it.

Looking back to when we were growing up, we had some good times. Great times, even.

But the bad far, FAR outweighs the good. I look back, and I see how manipulative you were. Bad-tempered. Vindictive. Condescending. All to people you claimed to love. Close friends of mine have seen it, over and over. It’s not just me, seeing things that aren’t there.

Whenever you were confronted, you would play the victim and make people feel sorry for you. It was a tactic that always worked in your favor.

I’ve been told that your bad behavior was in the past. That you’ve “grown up” and matured.

But I can name numerous occasions in which you’ve been a shitty person as an adult in recent years. You’ve just gotten better at hiding your intentions and playing the victim when you’re called out. Your spouse is no better - they enable and bring out the worst in you.

If you text me to reach out to me, I will be civil and polite. But I have no interest in hanging out anymore, or visiting eachother, or going out to eat, or confiding in you outside of small talk.

I don’t expect anyone else in the family to follow my lead. But I will NOT be guilted into having a close relationship with you. I won’t.

I swore to myself that when I moved out and lived on my own, I would set boundaries. I have, and my life is that much better because of it.

Yes, without YOU being a part of it.

I would never want anything bad to happen to you, or wish harm on you or your spouse. I just don’t want either of you near me and I feel like that’s fair.

One day, you’ll ask me outright why we don’t talk anymore. Why I make excuses whenever you suggest getting together. I’ll have to come clean then, and that won’t be an easy conversation to have. When that happens, I’m sure “low contact” will end up “no contact” from your side as well.

I wish things were different, but I’m not going to change my mind.

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anonymous Siblings January 23, 2024 at 4:50 pm 0 0