Not Gonna Wait

I am dating this guy whom we'll call him Helium. Helium is a busy man and I genuinely understand that. I know he has a lot on his plate so I am patient with him. However, what pissed me off the most is I just didn't reply to him for a day because I was so tired and then suddenly, everything went downhill from there. I can't believe I was apologizing for feeling tired and prioritizing my needs. He kept bringing up what his exes did to fuck him up. He said that I will do the same thing that they did. It pains me that he thinks I'm like his exes. Now, he's not sure of what we are. He doesn't know what label to put in our relationship (if you can even call it a relationship). He added that he can't trust me from what I did.

He told me he wanted to think about our 'relationship' and that I should wait for him for *2 months*. I can not and will not wait for that long. I don't deserve to wait for someone who is not willing to give me a chance to prove that I'm different, not willing to give me an update on what is going on with his life, and who is not willing to live in the present. I doubt that his friends know that I exist.

This 'relationship' feels like I'm the only one who's giving the effort. I'm the one who always compromises. When problems arise, he says he's open to talk but in reality, I'd rather talk to a fucking wall because he sucks at comforting and he is always busy.

tl;dr I didn't reply to the guy I'm dating for a day and then he started to compare me to his exes and told me I couldn't be trusted.

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isra Relationships May 06, 2021 at 10:08 am 4 0